Remember me? The one that may or may not have “gotten away”? I want to say thank you..but not for what you might be thinking. I want to thank you for letting me go, for breaking my heart & for ultimately pushing me down the path of entrepreneurship because let’s face it, I would have married you, settled down, had a family, and would have never done the thousands of amazing things I’ve done since then. As I sit back and reflect on you, how you treated me and how you broke my heart in one way or another, I can honestly say that the tears & heartache weren’t for nothing and if we’re being honest, I’d do it all over again to be sitting where I’m at today.
Now I will never thank you for cheating or lying to me, but I also won’t fault you for that…at least anymore, and the reason for that is we just weren’t meant to be and I get that, I’ve understood that for quite some time, many years to be honest. Do I think about a you from time to time? Sure, but not in the way you might think. You see, if it wasn’t for you not believing in me and our relationship I wouldn’t be where I am today, and today I’m in a good place…I have been for quite some time. I’ve traveled, I’ve started businesses, I have amazing friends, and my life is good.
Oh, and you, yes you, the ex whose family thought I would never amount to anything more than a preschool teacher, I have two things to say to you; there is absolutely NOTHING wrong with being a preschool teacher, and LOOK AT ME NOW! Do you want to know what 9 1/2 years in a so-called dead end job did for me? It taught me patience to deal with my clients. Teaching preschool helped me cultivate a creative mind when most adults start losing their creativity, and boy oh boy is a creative mind necessary in the industry I’m in. Teaching preschool also taught me how to deal with the unexpected, and unexpected is something to be expected when you’re a business owner. Did you know that I met some of my most favorite people teaching preschool? These are the same people that held me up when you knocked me down over and over again, and they’ve been some of my biggest and loudest cheerleaders supporting my crazy ideas even when I’m sure there are times that they have no f*ing clue what I’m doing or talking about. I want you to know that your family was absolutely correct that we weren’t meant for one another, but not because I would hold you back or tie you down, but because you would have blocked the entrepreneurial path I was destined to be on, and for that and so much more, thank you.
Oh and you, Mr. She-Didn’t-Know-I-Was-Married Ex, thank you for teaching me that no matter how many times someone knocks me down, I’m gonna get up, dust myself off, and carry on with my bad ass self. This has helped when I’ve lost clients, had proposals shot down, or had colleagues swipe clients out from underneath me. Your wife taught me how to deal with people that point fingers and place blame on me or my company instead of owning up to their own mistakes. She taught me that no matter how nasty people can be in the business world, I have two choices…1. get knocked down or 2. take the higher road and be classy AF! I immersed myself into a world that I knew next to nothing about at a time where social media was pretty much just MySpace and Twitter. I spent countless hours researching and learning from some of the best in the marketing world and spinning their concepts into social media strategies for businesses. I took all the energy of missing you, and hating you & your wife and threw it into what is now a successful social media marketing agency, so thank you.
I know this might sound vindictive to you. It probably sounds like I’m gloating, but I’m honestly so grateful for all of the experiences I’ve had, including having my heart broken one too many times. Trust me when I say that I could never thank you enough. If it weren’t for you I wouldn’t be the Kim I am today. The entrepreneur that continues to push forward when haters try to knock her down. Thank you for pointing me towards the path I was meant to be on and thank you for showing me who I truly am, and not who you thought I should be.
No hard feelings…anymore.
Someone you used to love.